Post by lazy dru on Dec 16, 2004 9:27:27 GMT -5
Guest-anjhesetikins said:
i think i've become scrooge. for the past three years, i've actually been getting AnGRY when involved in discussions about what presents to by for Todd's nieces and nephews and how much i'm supposed to spend. For the past three years his sister-in-law has been saying, "All right, $40 on the kids and $50 on the adults!" I'm like - f**k you and YOUR big bank account, I don't wanna spend that!
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anyway he has so many nieces and nephews and they all have like, 4 sets of grandparents, plus their parents, plus ALL their aunts and uncles spending WAYYYYYY too much money on them. it's f**king ridiculous. kids do not need thousands of dollars worth of toys every christmas.
i bought 'em all books last year. this year, i'm spending $15 a kid.
no one's going to tell me how much to spend
hmph.
that's exactly like me. i won't buy for cousin's kids and things like that. and in return, if i ever have a kid, i don't want them buying for my kid. all that gift giving is silly. for one, the things i want (or would want for my child) are completely not what i (or my kid) would get. someone will inevitably get me something like a godsmack cd or i can see someone buying my kid a disney movie. there is nothing about who i am that would lead someone to believe that i would want a godsmack cd.
there is a good little essay i read once on gift giving. it MAY have been by Kant, but right off the top of my head, i can't remember. whoever it was was against gift giving and it was SO GOOD. i don't like the social norms of buying gifts. buy gifts because you want to, not for the feeling of obligation. that just seems arbitrary. i don't want a gift from someone that feels the only reason to give me one is because the rules of manners. i want a gift from someone that wants to give me one.
maybe you could draw names for the kids next year.... and just buy for 1 or 2 instead of everybody...
we do that on my dad's side of the family. it was such a good idea. that family was growing too fast.